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THE VISUAL DIARY OF A 40 SOMETHING WOMAN

A day in the life of the Beauty Disruptor.  Join her on her journey through midlife, as she shares her thoughts, feelings and ideas  on aging expressed through visual media.

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OLDER, STRONGER, AND WISER

Birhakeim, Paris January 2022
IT TOOK ME YEARS TO GET TO THE PLACE WHERE I AM NOW. I HAD TO GO THROUGH SOME TRIALS AND LEARN A FEW THINGS. WISDOM COMES WITH AGE. IF I ONLY KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW. 
titilayo Asmara at Birhakeim
Titilayo Asmara at hotel marignan

CONFIDENCE IS YOUR BEST ACCESSORY

Hotel Marignan, Paris February 2022
I DIDN'T KNOW THAT BEING IN MY 40s WOULD FEEL THIS GOOD. I HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE, MORE ATTITUDE AND MORE SEX APPEAL THAN EVER BEFORE.

CREATING NEW PATHS

Jardin des Tuileries, Paris  March 2022 
STEPPING INTO MIDLIFE MEANS DELVING INTO UNCHARTERED WATERS. AS A 40+ WOMAN I WAS UNABLE TO SEE MYSELF IN MODERN SOCIETY. TOO OFTEN 40+ WOMEN GO UNSEEN, AND ARE THOUGHT OF AS YESTERDAY'S NEWS. CREATING A NEW PATH MEANT FIGHTING AGEISM. I DECIDED TO CREATE MY OWN LANE, WALKING AT MY OWN PACE BECAUSE I REFUSE TO BE INVISIBLE.
Titilayo Asmara at jardin de tuileries
Titilayo Asmara at musée d'art moderne

THERE IS NOTHING TO FEAR BUT FEAR ITSELF

Musée d'Art Moderne, Paris  April 2022
THE DAY I TURNED 40 WAS THE DAY I BECAME POWERFUL.  ALL OF MY LIFE EXPERIENCE, KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM HAD UNKNOWINGLY PREPARED ME FOR THIS MOMENT.  I FELT INVINCIBLE, AND IT FELT GOOD. NOTHING NOR ANYONE COULD STOP ME. I HAD ALREADY SEEN OR HAD EXPERIENCED THE WORST LIFE HAD TO OFFER. NOW  I COULD DO ANYTHING. THERE WAS NO MORE FEAR.

OVER 40 STYLE

Musée de la mode Palais Galleria, Paris  
​May 2022
 STYLE IS IN YOUR DNA. YOU'RE BORN WITH IT. WHETHER YOU'RE 20 OR 50, YOU CAN STILL BE STYLISH AT ANY AGE.  ALL TOO OFTEN WOMEN LOSE THEIR SENSE OF STYLE AFTER 40. SUDDENLY THEY DON'T KNOW HOW TO DRESS ANYMORE. SOCIETY HAS PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON 40+ WOMEN TO DRESS ACCORDING TO THIER "AGE". I FIND THIS RIDICULOUS. STYLE IS AN EXPRESSION OF THE INNER SELF, AND YOU SHOULD NEVER STOP DRESSING HOW YOU FEEL. A WOMAN CAN BE STYLISH AT ANY AGE.
Titilayo Asmara at musée de la mode
Titilayo Asmara at avenue de camoëns

DANCE TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM

Avenue de Camoëns, Paris June 2022
I'VE ALWAYS DANCED TO THE BEAT OF MY OWN DRUM, AND HAVE DONE WHATEVER I WANTED WHENEVER I WANTED. AGE HAS NEVER BEEN A FACTOR WHEN IT COMES TO TRYING NEW THINGS. I FIRMLY BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN BECOME WHOEVER YOU WANT TO BE AND DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE. DON'T EVER LET AGE STOP YOU FROM LIVING OUT YOUR DREAMS.
Titilayo Asmara at petit palais
Petit Palais, Paris   July 2022

40 SOMETHING & UNAPOLEGETIC

Pont Alexandre III, Paris  August 2022
WHEN I TURNED 40, I STOPPED GIVING A DAMN. I REALISED THAT HALF THE STUFF I PREOCCUPIED MY MIND WITH REALLY DIDN'T EXIST. AND I COULD CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THOUGHT OR SAID ABOUT ME.  I MADE MYSELF A PRIORITY, AND STARTED TO DO THINGS TO PLEASE ME. I REALISED THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY ALL I REALLY HAD WAS ME. NO ONE HELPED ME TO BECOME THE WOMAN THAT I AM TODAY, SO DIDN'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING.  ONCE I STARTED TO THINK LIKE THIS I BECAME HAPPIER AND STARTED TO SOAR.  
Titilayo Asmara at pont Alexandre III
Titilayo Asmara at place de Concorde

AGING WITH ATTITUDE

Place de Concorde, Paris  September 2022
BECOMING 40 IS REALLY SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE TO OWN.  THERE'S SO MUCH STIGMA SURROUNDING AGING THAT IT CAN BE HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO ADJUST.  THE DAY I TURNED 40 WAS JUST LIKE ANY OTHER DAY.  I SAID TO MYSELF,    "WELL DAMMIT, YOU'RE ACTUALLY HERE! MIGHT AS WELL ENJOY IT". AND FROM THAT DAY FORWARD I BEGAN TO OWN IT LIKE A BADGE OF HONOR, WITH PRIDE AND  A WHOLE LOT OF ATTITUDE. 
Titilayo Asmara at Musée du Louvre

THOUGHTS ON AGING

Musée du Louvre, Paris  September 2022
THE WORD MIDLIFE NEVER SAT WELL WITH ME. THERE ARE SO MANY NEGATIVE CONNOTATIONS SURROUNDING THIS WORD.  IT'S AS IF TO SAY, YOU'RE NEARING THE END OF THE ROAD AND ARE NEARING DEATH.  JUST LIKE A YELLOW CAUTION SIGN DISPLAYED ON THE ROADSIDE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE.  
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS MIDLIFE, ONLY ONE LIFE. WE WERE BORN WITH ONE LIFE, FROM THE CRADLE TO THE GRAVE. SO THERE REALLY IS NO NEED TO MAKE DISTINCTIONS. AND I HAVE CONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO LIVE THAT LIFE TO THE FULLEST DESPITE WHATEVER ANYONE HAS TO SAY ABOUT WHERE I AM ON THIS JOURNEY.
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